7 Feng Shui Tips For Spicing Up Your Lovelife

Are you happy with your lovelife or would you like to see it improved?

No matter who you are, there are times when "the bedroom" is not the loving and fun room it should be.

There are of course numerous reasons why this may happen but there are some simple things you can do to help you make things better.

Your bedroom acts as a magnet both literally and metaphorically for your relationships. It is also where you sleep during the night renewing your energy levels in preparation for what the world has to offer to you the next day.

It is most likely where your romantic life is centered - unless of course you like to experiment - perhaps you're a free spirit who likes to commune with the outdoors ;-)

Your bedroom is your and your homes sanctuary.

The positioning and layout within it plays a massive role not only on your passion and romance chances but also your health, wealth and other relationships in general.

Careful attention should indeed be paid on this highly important room. When you get it right, positive energy (called "chi" by the Chinese and "ki" by the Japenese) will flow easily through your home.

Get it wrong...

All things in life are connected at the minute quantum level and the following information will help guide you so you and your relationships flourish:

1. Make sure your bedroom "feels" inviting - it must fulfill the role of a place of safety for you. When you look at the state of your bedroom now - what does it say to and about you? Does it say "I'm at home with myself" or is it a big jumble and in disarray? Is it just functional - it's purpose only for sleeping in your eyes, if so - if you want your love life to change, then this has got to change too.

2. Look around at all of the items - furniture/trinkets etc... in your bedroom. Do you have good/loving memories and feelings for these items? Or are there items which hold bad memories? If there are - get rid of them, they hold a residual energy and act as a constant reminder to your non-conscious mind. How about photos? Are there any old flames "hanging around" - again, chuck them out - you do want to move on to a new relationship - don't you?

3. Your bed should be the focal point of the room - this is where both "action" and "inaction" takes place, where you are both energized and renewed. Does your bedroom have a "personality problem"? Is it in effect multitasking? Do you have a home office or perhaps a treadmill beside you? Again, these items should not be here. You want to focus on your relationships rather than your body or mind in this room - move them out. If this is not possible due to space constraints, you will need to use a screen to keep them "at bay".

4. The ever present TV. Yes it can be cosy to curl up in bed and watch a great movie but a TV sends out a stream of positive ions (rather than positive chi) - this device is "yang" in nature and will ensure your body does not get the rest it requires. It also represents a 3rd party in the room - not particularly conducive to a stable and healthy monogomous relationship... Once again - the TV has got to go.

5. Make sure your bed is as far away from the door to your room as you can. If you are unable to see the door, you will feel ill at ease at a subconscious level - this is because you will sense you cannot see if an intruder will enter your room (heaven forbid!). This unease will of course impact how you rest at night.

6. Choose a bed which has a solid and sturdy headboard. In Form School Feng Shui, the headboard represents a supportive mountain to your back.

7. Your bed holds residual energy from those who have come and gone before. In an ideal world, if you have had a partner and wish to attract a new one, you should purchase a new bed. This gives you and your new relationship an optimal chance to flourish. Regardless, you should invest in the best bed you can as if you sleep 8 hours per day, this means you will spend 1/3 of your entire life in it!

Tracy O'Brien is a long time student and practitioner of the ancient art of Feng Shui. She is also the founder of FengShuiAstrology.com For more Feng Shui Tips and a FREE Feng Shui Astrology Personality Profile, visit: http://www.fengshuiastrology.com

The Tradition of the RED Envelopes in Feng Shui

What is all this talk about the Red Envelopes used in Feng Shui? As many consultants differ on methods, cures and other areas of Feng Shui, it appears many of us use the Red Envelopes in different ways as well. We were all trained by different mentors and sometimes view things differently; our methods are all effective in what we?d like to create and please note that these are only MY methods and intentions when using the Red Envelopes.

I actually didn?t know we had a difference as I just assumed we were all taught the same way. The Red Envelopes are used and exchanged when we perform a Transcendental Blessing or ?Cure? in the Black Sect tradition of Feng Shui. As these methods were never supposed to be published in a book, they were only meant to be passed down from Mentor to Student verbally, in our cases, the clients we performed the Blessings for. I describe what is used and why and explain they are an integral part of any Consultation. I have never felt that a Consultation would be helpful beyond a very limited point without them and they are always a vital part of my consultations. Since they are non-denominational, I have never had anyone object to them.

While I was Chapter Director of the International Feng Shui Guild, I finally had an opportunity to meet with some of the other members who expressed an interest in doing a Community Service for Long Island. And it was during this lunch that a discussion of the Red Envelopes came up. I was more then a little surprised to hear from two of the Consultants that I had been using them the ?wrong? way. And that I had apparently been taught ?incorrectly? by several of my mentors who were already Masters of Feng Shui in 1997.

We were taught (repeatedly) that the Red Envelopes are an Energy Exchange, a form of protection for those of us imparting these beautiful Blessings and Cures to another person; and if the other person were to pass them on, they also would need to get Red Envelopes from the recipient. We were further advised that some money should be placed in the envelopes, that amount to be determined by the client; and this money was NEVER, EVER to be kept, it had to be donated. As the years passed I have donated hundreds and hundreds of dollars to various causes such as the Red Cross and St. Jude?s Hospital. If the amounts in the envelopes were small, I would just save them until they had accumulated and then write out a check to different organizations.

It is our part of our duties to sleep near or on the Envelopes provided for a period of Nine nights, Nine being the Auspicious number in Feng Shui. Sometimes we put them on an altar, but we are never far from them during this very important time. And it is also a time to keep up with our clients as some have changes almost immediately while others take longer. If things are changing rapidly, I want to know as I would if they are not moving at all. Remember, the Blessings in and of themselves are very powerful to create and change our surroundings and the Energy in it.

And through the years of my practice I noticed another thing happening with the envelopes; I would get an image in my head or just ?see? something in a home or business that I had not seen or thought of while I was there. With some clients it would be more intense (as some people?s energy are more intense) and I would call or email them to advise them of what had occurred. I decided to try something and asked my clients to write down their Intentions and place them inside the envelopes as well?..surely, I thought, if they are infused with Energy I will get more thoughts and wanted to see what happened.

And I did. The dreams and thoughts became more vivid and clear and sometimes I would see things differently than I had during the consultation; sometimes I would envision something else that should be added. When it was intense I would ?see? things that I didn?t always know what they signified. And at these times, a call to my client was needed, as much for me to try to understand what was happening as well as to advise them. I develop amazing connections with my clients and the Energy that we establish during a consultation will likely keep us connected for years; some of my very first clients are now life long friends. We attract the clients we are meant to have, just as we attract all the people who come into our lives.

Back to the lunch where I was advised that I was ?taught? incorrectly; the Red Envelopes were definitely an Energy Exchange and the amount of money to be put into them were determined by the client above and beyond your fee?it was money to be kept; it was an example of my ?worth? is what they told me. Could I have been so wrong after ten years when I was having such positive results with my clients? I went back to my original notebook, dusted it off and read it cover to cover---and then to the second and third notebooks. ALL of our mentors during the year of 1997 at The Metropolitan Institute of Interior Design (which was, by the way, the very first school on Feng Shui Studies that was both licensed and accredited in Feng Shui Studies in the U.S.) had informed us to never keep that money.

I felt that I was in a quandary, felt a lot of (well meaning) criticism and wondered what to do. And I didn?t have to wonder long. I realized through the years of all the unseen and unknown people that had been helped through the kindness of my clients and the donations that had been made. After all, I reasoned, if it?s worked so well for ten years, why change it now? Perhaps I wasn?t taught a ?wrong? way, just a different way but it was working well for myself, my clients and many people out in the universe. The joy of ?gifting? back all these years has always made me feel good and I don?t need money to tell me what my self worth is equal to. I have seen and shared firsthand wonderful success stories with my clients while having helped others around the world. What better gift can Feng Shui give us?

Carole Provenzale
Feng Shui Long Island
Certified Feng Shui Practitioner
http://www.FengShuiLI.com
FengShuiLI@aol.com

Carole has been a Certified Feng Shui Consultant for the last decade serving Homes and Businesses on Long Island and New York City onsite and Online for those at a distance. Carole is also a keynote speaker for large and small Corporations including Fox 5, The Long Island Board of Realtors and Nordstroms. She is a published author and Ordained Minister currently with continuing studies in Energy Healing and Health.